I know that someones past can play a huge role in the happiness of ones future but God can and will make all things new. My mom and I talked about how their past was pretty bumpy, a lot of worldly, sinful things before they had Jesus in their life! She poured out her heart of how she was so close to giving up on their marriage but the Lord saved it. If it weren't for the Lord's power to clean up their relationship and show them what true love was it would not be what it is today. (My parents are still married and share a great life together btw...)
After my mom sharing about her past, the struggles she has gone through to get to where she is now, and things she still goes through I started to think. I started to think about my own marriage and relationship with Brandyn. I often find myself having mixed feelings for being so happy, for having a beautiful marriage. Sometimes I feel bad that I have something so great when so many couples are struggling so much to make things work. Like I want to express my feelings of great happiness and joy but I sometimes feel like I need to keep it to myself because of all the pain that many experience in their marriage. And I honestly don't think I am the only one who has these feelings...?
But then it hit me, Christ created marriage in the beginning to share with the church what the Bride of Christ was to be, how the church was supposed to be for the Lord. And what the Lords love looks like for his church. Why would God create something (marriage) so beautiful to replicate such an amazing picture and then not desire for us to live out that happiness? Like lets be real if the Lord created marriage only to reproduce - sex/relationship for babies - He totally could have made it happen in a different, less intimate, and not so personal way! But he didn't. He created such a beautiful thing. In my case He allowed me to meet the most amazing man, fall in love, get married and share the deepest, most passionate love that only could be found by living under the covenant of God. I often have people ask how we have such a good relationship and what we do but it's not about what we do - It's about being %100 open to each other and the Lord. And trusting in the Lord's beautiful plan.
But then it hit me, Christ created marriage in the beginning to share with the church what the Bride of Christ was to be, how the church was supposed to be for the Lord. And what the Lords love looks like for his church. Why would God create something (marriage) so beautiful to replicate such an amazing picture and then not desire for us to live out that happiness? Like lets be real if the Lord created marriage only to reproduce - sex/relationship for babies - He totally could have made it happen in a different, less intimate, and not so personal way! But he didn't. He created such a beautiful thing. In my case He allowed me to meet the most amazing man, fall in love, get married and share the deepest, most passionate love that only could be found by living under the covenant of God. I often have people ask how we have such a good relationship and what we do but it's not about what we do - It's about being %100 open to each other and the Lord. And trusting in the Lord's beautiful plan.
I guess what I am trying to say is that people need true love to exist to be able to work for something better. We live in a sinful world and we are all only human but with God he can make marriage beautiful - just like he intended from the beginning. No, it is not always going to be perfect, and easy. (Maybe I will share some of our own trials and struggles we are currently facing soon.) BUT if we start to change our mindset and realize that God's desire is that we share Him through our relationship with our spouse, it will bring Him glory. We need to stop saying things like "marriage will be the hardest thing you'll ever do". Don't get me wrong I know its not all butterflies and roses, but I think we set ourselves up for failure from the beginning. Marriage is beautiful and can be beautiful forever! It all starts by giving a little more of ourselves and not keeping score.
On a side note: I totally understand that people struggle, and that we all have times of giving up. Times when we feel like we are the only ones trying, who knows maybe we are! But there is hope, hope in Jesus - He will restore what is lost, make your relationship great again, and be by your side in the process. His desire for you is to have a beautiful marriage. It might take some work and time but YOU CAN DO IT!
XO - K
XO - K
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